How to Give a Best Man Speech for your Brother

Apr 11, 2017 | Best Man

It’s common practice for grooms to ask a brother to stand as their best man. The situation usually falls into one of the following categories:

  • You guy are genuinely best friends;
  • You’re close, but maybe don’t know each other as well outside the family;
  • There’s brotherly love, but not a whole lot in common and the offer was more a meaningful gesture than something that made sense.

But whatever the reason, you now have to write a best man speech for your brother

best man speech for your brotherSo what to do?

If you guys are close or hang out a lot, you can follow the standard formula. If you fall into the category of seeing each other as important, but your personalities and interests don’t gel, you might have a little more difficult.

Regardless of your position, when you’re writing for your brother, being family offers you a couple of advantages.

Best Man Speech for your Brother Tip #1. Anecdotes

Siblings – and especially brothers – have a birth right to slag each other off. You no doubt have plenty of ammunition and you also have an advantage because friends typically only have drinking or X-rated stories. You have all the embarrassing childhood stories to bring up.

Avoid anything controversial that you know will cause trouble. For example, if your brother and cousin stopped talking for years over an incident, don’t make any jokes about it even if they appear to have moved past it. Similarly, avoid anything you know they’re particularly sensitive about, like maybe something they were bullied about as a kid.

Apart from that, everything is game. Brothers can push things further than friends can in the slagging department so feel free to talk about the awkward teenage years, his embarrassing first crush or any hilarious toilet-related accidents from when he was a kid.

best man speech for your brother

Best Man Speech for your Brother Tip #2. A Family Affair

As his brother, you have access to aunt, uncles, grandparents and cousins who no doubt have plenty of funny memories about the groom. If you’re struggling to think of something to talk about, ask around.

You can even turn the speech into a ‘Top 5 Embarrassing Childhood Stories’ presentation and take a vote among family members. The more people are involved, the more they’ll enjoy your speech.

best man speech for your brotherClick here for more speech-writing tips, as well as guides to being the best Best Man.